Help! How Do I Deal With My Contempt?

My last blog elicited quite a few responses asking how we should handle our contemptuous hearts. Remember, contempt is the number one marriage killer. It’s not something to take lightly.

Tackling an answer in a blog doesn’t do the problem justice. One size does not fit all. Still, I’m going to offer an approach by sharing what’s helped identify and root out contempt in our marriage. Bear in mind that this was after [...]

By |February 15th, 2017|Shari Thomas|4 Comments|

A Lifestyle of Repentance: Part 2 – Worldly Sorrow, Godly Sorrow, and True Reconciliation

What does it mean to live a lifestyle of repentance?  Often, we are inclined to pursue a lifestyle of resolve, not repentance, thinking that if we just try harder, we will stop sinning and thus earn God’s favor. We believe too much in the power of our active righteousness—our ability to change our behavior.  What we need is a hunger for Christ’s passive righteousness—the spotless record Jesus has already achieved. He gives his children [...]

By |September 29th, 2014|Shari Thomas|4 Comments|

A Lifestyle of Repentance: Part 1 – Trusting in Christ’s Righteousness, Not our Efforts

I don’t like the word “repentance.”

I used to immediately be on guard when the topic surfaced. The first time I admitted my aversion to other pastors’ wives I was surprised to discover I wasn’t the only one with a “word dissociative disorder.”  Just say repentance and some of us go into a catatonic trance or retreat to a safe mental space. Why the strong reaction? As women married to the pastor, there are times [...]

By |September 10th, 2014|Shari Thomas|6 Comments|