Calling

Who Is The Woman Married To Your Pastor?

The Top Ten Things the Woman Married to Your Pastor Wants You to Know:

10. She’s her own person. She is not  an appendage of the pastor. She might even have differing political, social and biblical views than her spouse. She is in a position where sharing those views could negatively effect her husband’s job. You might be surprised and delighted to discover how different she may be from what you previously thought.

9. She has a [...]

Help! How Do I Deal With My Contempt?

My last blog elicited quite a few responses asking how we should handle our contemptuous hearts. Remember, contempt is the number one marriage killer. It’s not something to take lightly.

Tackling an answer in a blog doesn’t do the problem justice. One size does not fit all. Still, I’m going to offer an approach by sharing what’s helped identify and root out contempt in our marriage. Bear in mind that this was after [...]

By |February 15th, 2017|Shari Thomas|4 Comments|

How Do We Experience Inner Soul Rest?

Is it possible to live with rhythms of work and rest in today’s society? More importantly, how do we experience inner soul rest? These questions surfaced after my last blog post, “Too Much.”

We’re not the only ones asking these questions. Time’s cover story last week was dedicated to the rising depression and anxiety in teens. The drama in junior and senior high school is magnified to a tipping point as teens struggle to [...]

Too Much….

This summer I began writing on a life-long interest, survival and resiliency, only to discover that my friend Penny Freeman was doing the same. Here are her thoughts:

I am learning about resiliency for my new life stage (sixth decade of life, fourth decade of marriage, having less energy, a weaker body, and grandchildren who expand my heart and my desire to run until I am dead).  Resiliency fascinates me because I am staring down [...]

Mother of the Bride

It wasn’t until I sent photos of the two choices for my mother-of-the-bride dress that I took a really good look at the pictures. One looked like I was trying to dress like a bridesmaid and the other conjured up images of the deserted bride, Miss Havisham, from Great Expectations.

“What was I thinking?” My swirling train of contemptuous thoughts raced down an all too familiar path. “Do all my clothes look that bad on [...]

The Verdict

I first met Terri at the Nashville airport when we were sharing a ride to Parakaleo’s Basic Training Event. One of the goals in our training is to knead the truths of the gospel into our every day lives. We know God loves and accepts us but how does that impact our every day lives?  This is how Terri explains it…

The verdict is in! The gavel came down. The court is adjourned!

A conclusion [...]

From Small Beginnings…

Tami Resch and I were diligently working in her basement in 2005. We had grand plans to develop a system of coaching, care, celebration and connection for women like us. Women who were busy raising kids and starting churches.

Like other moms, we worked in between cooking meals, doing laundry and driving kids to and from after-school activities. That year, Tami and Steve’s youngest, Katherine, was enrolled in dance classes. So we packed up her dance [...]

Mothers, Snake Handlers and Christ figures

I was hoping for five minutes. Just five minutes alone in the shower.

The thought of showering without interruptions, without cries for help or utter silence indicating something was amiss, was my most luxurious wish in those early years of mothering.

I’ve heard of toddlers staying in their rooms playing contently, safely staying out of harms way. These, however, were not my offspring. And from the sounds of it, most of you don’t have docile kids [...]

Surviving When your Church Plant Doesn’t

Blog church planting failures and you’ll find a list of lessons learned, what went wrong, and what to avoid. Stories of failures are abundant, heartbreaking, and sometimes unimaginable.  It’s one of the occupational hazards of our work.

Shutting down a fledgling church is uniquely painful. It signals the end of praying, fundraising, planning and sacrificial labor to reach a particular community for Christ.  The pastoral couple has invested late nights and early mornings, made endless [...]

The Joys of Church Planting

A few Sundays ago we walked to the #2 subway line, headed to Penn station, caught a train to Flushing and arrived in Asia in less than 45 minutes.  Actually, we were visiting Kings Cross, a new church plant in Queens, http://peterong.wordpress.com/about/. Only the travel time belied the fact that we were still in NYC.  It’s one of the things I love about living in this city and that I also love about [...]